Rejection

Rejection is something that we do not like to give and something that we do not like to receive. Whenever you hear of the word rejection, I think the first thing that come to your mind is with regards to boy-girl relationship. Who says that it can only be that? Rejection can come from work, for example your ideas can be rejected by your clients or bosses. Rejection can also come from family, daily life and basically anywhere. 

There are two sides to a rejection: the person who initiate the rejection and the person who receive it. I believe most of us will believe that the person who receives the rejection is the victim and the person who initiated it is the winner. However, this may not be true in some cases. In some cases, both sides "lose". The one that received the rejection will of course feel sad and probably dejected that their offer is rejected. But the other party will also not feel good giving out this rejection. Have you ever think for hours or even days on how to reject someone's offer? Be it be in a relationship or just simply to reject a work offer. There are even articles online to teach you how to reject people in many different ways. 

Rejection is part of everyday life. Sometimes is easy to deal with it, sometimes it takes time to settle it. The first thing to do when you receive a rejection is to let the message sink in. Accept the fact that you have been rejected. Do not deny it and keep bugging the person who rejected you. If you do not understand why you got rejected, let the message sink in and analyze the reasons that was given to you. Once you analyze, you will probably have enough reasons to reason and not just arguing nonsensically. Two, if you have already accepted the fact that you are rejected, think about why got rejected and try to improve yourself to become better such that the next time can be a success. If it is a relationship, probably the person is just not for you so just leave it. 勉强是没有幸福的。

If you are the one who is going to initiate the rejection, make sure that you have a script in your heart which you have say it over and over again. A script is to make sure that whatever that you said is said tactfully such that you are not harming the opposite party. After the rejection is said, let the opposite party have time to sink the message in and not suddenly jump into another topic as this is being not sensitive to the opposite party's feelings. If let say the opposite party started arguing with you with regards to the rejection, let him/her finish her rambling or scolding and do not try to join the argument which may worsen the situation. After his/her scolding is completed, calm him/her down and explain to him/her in a calm tone. Do not try to escape without trying to explain. Even if the opposite party escapes, it is still courtesy to explain the reason for rejection. You do not want to leave a hole in somebody's heart and you do not want someone to hate you as well. 

Stated above are just some of my feelings and observations of what I think should be done. But when talking about human emotions, we may do something that exceeds our own expectations and later on we may even regret our actions. My purpose of writing them down is to make sure that I keep these points in mind so that my heart's decision will not win over my mind's decision. 

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