Self-control

Lately, I realized that I am lacking in self-control over myself. I think I have already stop controlling myself since last year after graduation. I do not control things that I put into my body. I do not control things that I have in my mind. I do not control how I am living my life in general. I need to get my self-control back and I shall start now. Who says that New Year Resolution have to start on 1st January? It can happen anywhere anytime. 

First, controlling things that I put into my body. I have been binge eating on and off since mid last year like I will eat peanut butter out of the container at 9pm while watching dramas on my computer even though I know I am already full and too much sweet things causes me to have gas. So to bring back my self-control and also my weight (I did increase quite a substantial amount since last year), I am going to eat 3 meals a day with no snacks in between. I am going to start out slow since is the Christmas season now and the next month is Chinese New Year. There are bound to be some gatherings that I cannot skip. Also, I need to drink more water to flush out the toxins in my body and to boost my hydration level. I believe the first week may be tough as this habit to snack may take a toll on my mental mind but I will complete it!!

Second, exercise. I just recently bought over a yoga membership from a friend and I will aim to go for yoga three times a week, together with Puma run and a long distance once a week and hopefully zumba too. Therefore, in total, I will be working out 6 out of 7 days which should be manageable for me as I am already hitting about 3 days a week now. On days that I cannot manage to workout, be it because of weather, work or gatherings, I will do squats and planks at home. Hopefully, this training can help me increase my endurance and stamina for my goal to do a half-marathon next year. 

Third, I need to start planning for things that I want to complete. I want to go hiking for the longest time and I have not started on doing. I want to go for backpacking solo trip. I want to learn diving. I need to get notice in my job. I want to do things that are important in my job which currently I am feeling rather useless now. 

Ok, I have finished ranting now. I will definitely start on the first two right away and I shall see if there is any results in one week time. JIAYOU!

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Rejection

Rejection is something that we do not like to give and something that we do not like to receive. Whenever you hear of the word rejection, I think the first thing that come to your mind is with regards to boy-girl relationship. Who says that it can only be that? Rejection can come from work, for example your ideas can be rejected by your clients or bosses. Rejection can also come from family, daily life and basically anywhere. 

There are two sides to a rejection: the person who initiate the rejection and the person who receive it. I believe most of us will believe that the person who receives the rejection is the victim and the person who initiated it is the winner. However, this may not be true in some cases. In some cases, both sides "lose". The one that received the rejection will of course feel sad and probably dejected that their offer is rejected. But the other party will also not feel good giving out this rejection. Have you ever think for hours or even days on how to reject someone's offer? Be it be in a relationship or just simply to reject a work offer. There are even articles online to teach you how to reject people in many different ways. 

Rejection is part of everyday life. Sometimes is easy to deal with it, sometimes it takes time to settle it. The first thing to do when you receive a rejection is to let the message sink in. Accept the fact that you have been rejected. Do not deny it and keep bugging the person who rejected you. If you do not understand why you got rejected, let the message sink in and analyze the reasons that was given to you. Once you analyze, you will probably have enough reasons to reason and not just arguing nonsensically. Two, if you have already accepted the fact that you are rejected, think about why got rejected and try to improve yourself to become better such that the next time can be a success. If it is a relationship, probably the person is just not for you so just leave it. 勉强是没有幸福的。

If you are the one who is going to initiate the rejection, make sure that you have a script in your heart which you have say it over and over again. A script is to make sure that whatever that you said is said tactfully such that you are not harming the opposite party. After the rejection is said, let the opposite party have time to sink the message in and not suddenly jump into another topic as this is being not sensitive to the opposite party's feelings. If let say the opposite party started arguing with you with regards to the rejection, let him/her finish her rambling or scolding and do not try to join the argument which may worsen the situation. After his/her scolding is completed, calm him/her down and explain to him/her in a calm tone. Do not try to escape without trying to explain. Even if the opposite party escapes, it is still courtesy to explain the reason for rejection. You do not want to leave a hole in somebody's heart and you do not want someone to hate you as well. 

Stated above are just some of my feelings and observations of what I think should be done. But when talking about human emotions, we may do something that exceeds our own expectations and later on we may even regret our actions. My purpose of writing them down is to make sure that I keep these points in mind so that my heart's decision will not win over my mind's decision. 

One thing I am happy today:
FREE TRIAL OF POLE DANCING AT POLEFESSIONAL!

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Happiness

Happiness. A word that is easy to say but difficult to define. Everybody has their own definition of what happiness is. Some people can be happy with a full stomach, some require a luxurious yacht. Some require a stable income, some require a branded bag. To me, happiness is not just about things that you feel with your five senses, is also about your physical and mental state of health. Happiness must come from within and objects are just tools for you to reach your ultimate happiness. 

Personally, I think mental happiness plays a very huge role in controlling how we feel inside. If we think positive thoughts and keep ourselves busy with the things that we enjoy doing, we will be easily satisfied. But how is it easy is it for  us to keep ourselves busy with the things that we enjoy doing? I dare say that most people in the world are usually working for the sake to keep ourselves alive. Only a handful of us are actually enjoying their work. Recently, I read a tweet from muttons from 987fm that said that they are grateful that they do not have to work because being a DJ is not work, is a passion. 

I am going to write down one thing per day that makes me happy as I think that I have to constantly remind myself that I am happy and do not make myself so depressed all the time. Being depressed will seriously screw up your health. 

So for today, one thing that I am happy about is:

I AM GOING TO RUN LATER WITH THE PUMA RUNNING CLUB :D 

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